Tokyo Tales: Where Are We From? (Simon and Martina Podcast Episode 15)


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    Episode 15 of the Tokyo Tales podcast has us discussing the idea of identity. Is where you are from only the place you were born? We're not sure, but our answer for where we are from is a question with answers we're not satisfied giving.
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    1. Debbie Weiland

      I loved Martina’s story about her friend Miki. It was such a beautiful idea and it was quite obvious how much it touched her. When it comes to where you’re from… Perhaps we should just say yesterday... Because everything you’ve experienced makes you Into the person you are. I was born in Kentucky, which is in the United States. But I have lived many places in the United States. I also love Japanese culture I felt quite at home when I visited there. So I think, I come from yesterday is going to be my answer from now on.

    2. Heart&Seoul

      I really enjoyed this podcast, I realize I've been going through all of these a year late, but this pandemic has really given me the time to get back to watching more KGup videos and such that I didn't used to have much time for recently. I really related to this one a lot. I'm going on my 6th year in Korea now, and its always a bit of an awkward question to get when I go abroad. (Especially when I travel with American/British/etc friends who are also living in Korea). "Where are you guys from?" turns into a weird sentence of, "Well, I'm from Canada, and she's from ____, but we live in Korea". lol. Like you said, it's quite the conversation starter. haha. And I definitely understand the feeling of comforts from your new home when travelling to Canada or other countries. My mom almost got offended when I spoke of missing something in Korea during a 2 week trip. I often feel like Phoebe from "the magic school bus", saying "We don't do this in Korea," or "In Korea we..." It's a totally weird experience that I find hard to relate, and explain why Canadian culture things feel strange to me sometimes, or i've forgotten about.

    3. sigmablade159

      there is an easy answer to the question where r u from. the answer is, earth.

    4. Sophie

      Sometimes im confused when in some videos Martina says "as a European"? Does it refer to the same thing as "from Japan"?

    5. adele hammond

      I'm not trying to be mean but implying that trans people's identities are hippy shit is not correct or useful and the term I identify as a attack helicopter is a way for certain people to attack and insult trans people

    6. Caroline B

      Simon and Martina I know exactly how you feel! My parents are Polish but I was born in the US and grew up in Germany. My parents now live in Croatia so whenever I go ‘home’ (which in my mind is where my parents live), I fly to Croatia. I feel neither Polish nor American (nor German for that matter) and that’s ok! Growing up I struggled a lot with my own identity but now I jokingly call myself a world citizen :) I loved this particular episode and I’m glad you discussed this topic!

    7. Ellinor Beach

      I love love you guys stand points on this question!! 👏🏼I was born in Brazil, raised in Sweden and in the USA. So people always struggle with the fact that I'm not from the country where I live in(Sweden), which for me is really weird. Usually when people don't understand when I try to explain to them, where I am from I just tried to make it as confusing as possible and then I let them figure it out... it's almost like a test to see if there were actually listening from the start😋😎

    8. furly6321

      Hi Simon and Martina! This comment may be 3 months late and you have other things going on, but I really hope that you read this. Your identity crisis is very much valid. I am a person who was born and raised in Hawaii and am a current resident to this day. When I tell that to people who aren’t from here, they think I’m Hawaiian. However, Hawaiian is a race and I would not identify as that since I am Filipino. So I do believe that you can say you are from Japan even though Simon is Polish and you are both born and raised in Canada.

      1. furly6321

        Also, update: I just finished the video (I’m sorry I got excited and commented early) but I think that you ended it very well on the idea that people should question their identity. There are times where I question if I know enough of my Filipino culture as I don’t feel connected with that side of me, really. So thank you for such a thought provoking idea. Also, your story about your friend was so touching. I’m happy you have a friend like that in your life. I wish you both the best and I can’t wait to see you in the next video/social media post!

    9. Katherine Robertson

      As an anthropology major, your point about humans being malleable is so spot on. A lot of people (especially in the US right now) are so set in their ways and resist change in any way they can even if it hurts others. Humans as a species have been successful due to our ability to adapt to many different situations and wildly fluctuating climates. While I completely get and respect wanting to maintain traditions and values, at a certain point things will inevitably evolve and if we try to stop it, it will likely end up backfiring on us in the long run. I’m not at all saying we should throw all of our values and traditions out the window but we need to keep adapting like we are biologically wired to do.

    10. sarah borrink

      I was born and raised in Omaha, Nebraska, and I have always identified as a Nebraskan no matter where I've traveled. For me, that is my "identity" because I was abandoned as a baby and put into the foster care system, so I don't know my biological family or their history and I've never cared enough to find out. My adoptive mom (who was the person I was placed with in the foster care system at 10 months old) is Polish and Russian, so I have a lot of that culture with me, but if you were to ask me where my ancestors came from I wouldn't be able to give you an answer. When it comes to traveling, I did the same thing you guys did when I was living in Korea. I would say "I'm visiting from Korea." because that's where I was living and for that particular trip that's where I was coming from. Even now, I say that I'm visiting from California, not that I'm a Californian.

    11. jaejoong-is-an-invalid-argument

      I think this is a great conversation about what they call in sociology as identification. Some sociologists study this specially for people in colonies like in Puerto Rico, Philipines, Cuba and others because of the variability in self identification.

    12. Adeline Rachalski

      Great podcast that I will share with a lot of people! I alsi lived in two different countries/continents and also questioned myself about identity and what was "home". It's hard to explain to other folks but you did a great job! Thanks guys! ☺

    13. Pearls-for-cats

      Im from a military family and "where are you from?" is slightly complex I always end up asking "do you mean like: where I was born? Where I grew up? lived the longest?lived there most frequently? felt most at home? where I live now?" I started to feel like having a different answer to each of these questions helped me understand how much identity can change and evolve over time. Obviously people mean different things when they ask "where are you from?" but thinking on the answer that feels right to me has helped me to better understand the kind of things in life I find important.

    14. Woori

      My dad passed away 2 years ago. That story of your friend making you a care package made me ugly cry.

    15. Tina Moss

      So true about America vs Canada

    16. RocknRoll13ZH

      It’s not that bizarre. I think that people get so thrown off because it’s an Asian country. I’m Mexican because I was born in Mexico and lived there for 11 years. But I’ve been living in the United States for more than 15 years and when people ask me where I’m from. I’ll say I’m from the US. I’m American, I don’t associate with the life in Mexico, I’m proudly Mexican but home is in the US. So I understand. Lol

    17. Jen Lewis

      mosaic and melting pot....yep, the fabric of what it means to be "Canadian" is that we are not one or the other (cultural identity)...we are both!

    18. Katrina Swaringen

      I really enjoy your podcasts. Do you have any suggestions for other podcasts that are similar to yours? The algorithm tends to pop up food stuff because you guys do a lot of food reviews, but I would like something similar to the content on your podcasts.

    19. Marie Hornung

      They’re totally not wrong about America wanting to be a melting pot, but I do think recently Americans have been trying to encourage 1st generation kids as well as immigrants to hang on to the culture of the motherland. But as someone who only identifies as an American from Kansas City I think the melting pot idea has at least some truth, but I think the “salad bowl” and “melting pot” terms are becoming outdated and perhaps oversimplified way to see cultures. Canada and America are both large and diverse countries that have evolved from these terms. No hate at all bc I do agree with them to an extent.

    20. Abby Wooper

      Identity is an odd thing. Particularly because it involves "race," "nationality," and "ethnicity" so often. My race is Korean, but I was raised in the United States, and my parents are white Americans. So I'm racially Korean, my nationality is American, and my ethnicity, honestly, is "white American." More specially, Catholic white American (which is a big deal in my city, as we have I believe the most Catholic schools per capita than anywhere in the USA). I grew up going to evening Catholic lessons, eating casseroles with cream of mushroom/chicken soup, eating plain MacNCheese, wearing church dresses, and thinking Americanized Mexican food was exotic (lol). I identify as Korean American, because I don't feel saying I am American fits my personal experiences in society, but I'm also not like many Korean Americans who were raised in Korean culture.

    21. LucentCausality

      God...I live in Iwate in Tohoku and it just snowed today. It feels so weird to hear you guys talking about it feeling like spring over a month ago and it yet feels so far away here despite still being Honshu ;;

    22. Renea Taylor

      Never stop making these they’re so relaxing to watch ☺️😍 only podcast I don’t get bored of 😍😍😍😅 it’s always interesting

    23. animegem16

      THIS IS SOOO RELATEABLE XD , i just tell people i am an alien i dont belong to anywhere.

    24. Amy Robinson

      Apologies if this has been posted elsewhere and I understand this may be poor timing. Simon discusses his Polish background a lot. We have heard Martina mention her family background in Croatian and that she visited there. Will there an opportunity for us to hear more about the Croatian culture? (of course only if that is appropriate and okay. If not, completely disregard this comment). I have just binged two Tokyo Tales today. They are so honest and insightful. A great programs guys! Love Meemers meowing at the end...had an image of him with the headphones on...too cute!

    25. Tiger

      The thing about pop music really spoke to me! Even growing up as a girl I felt like people didn’t take me seriously for liking pop music. I’ve never ever been ashamed of any music that I’ve liked but sometimes I avoid mentioning it just so I won’t have to deal with snide remarks.

    26. Céline G.

      I guess it's normal that people like you attract the type of crowd that identify the same but it's still very interesting comments! I'm French, married to a Dane, baby born in UK and now living in Sweden so I identify as European. And I think it's a good thing peace-wise to lose some nationalism and be able to empathy and feel linked but only my opinion :)

    27. Elisabeth Harkins

      I grow up as a military brat. But my family lived off the Base. Plus I was born in Landstuhl, Germany.( its outside of Frankfurt) I was so used to multiple cultures that my first time in America was so shell shocking I just don't like it. I know this sounds weird but I feel more comfortable with people speaking multiple languages around me than just people speak English.

    28. Rebecca Chu

      Thanks for this video. I really relate to this. I was born in Germany but moved to the UK when I was 2. My parents are British and so is my passport but people like to label me as German (although I have no problem with that). I grew up in north England but never felt I really belonged there or anywhere. I moved to London to go to uni and never moved back. My husband is Chinese and we both love Japanese culture, took a trip there a few years ago and fell in love. I’ve adopted a lot of Chinese traditions and even make my own congee and defo don’t feel like I’m from the north of England in comparison to other northerners. It’s funny how some people need to have that one label and others are happy to adapt to where they feel their heart belongs.

    29. Retro Tech 100

      I left London 20 years ago and moved to the North of England which is very different then i moved to Ireland for 15 years.My parents are Irish so ive always felt displaced.

    30. Marie Fell

      Simon and Martina, (and community) I've always wanted to move to Japan. I want to be able to fully integrate into the community and way of life, BUT I'm super allergic to seafood! Shrimp, crab, oyster, salmon, and tuna are all extremely dangerous for me to eat! In your opinion could I still live a fufilling life in Japan while also not eating what seem to be staples of asian diets?

    31. Aliscia7

      You guys rock! 💓

    32. Luis Gonzalez

      i never understood why everyone felt like they crossed a bordered when they came in to my base. i was station in atsugi japan for about 2 years and a half. i remember my non military friends asking to go to base just to see or shop there hehehe to this day it amazes me how excited people get to come inside base. when you watch tv in base you have AFN and they try their best to bring that feeling of america close to us. the food is american the stores and products are american and so to a 18 yr who just left home, family and gf/bf and is now on the other side of the world on a forward deployed command its hard. in my situation i fucking loved japan! i go back there every time i get but i talked to shipmates dealing with depression or stood suicide watch for a shipmate out at sea far away from home and sometimes all they need is a cheese burger or bacon to feel not so far from family and loved ones. its not always fun and exciting to be overseas. some of these people dont get to choose and honestly getting a some piss american beer and taco bell after deployment is fucking great!

    33. Gloria Caridad

      I couldn’t agree more with they way you guys adapt at your own pace to whichever country you live in, I hope I can do the same when I move out of mine, hugs!

    34. Kitty George


    35. BOOETTE

      As an asian born and living in australia. If I get asked where I'm from, i say the country where I live (australia), and when they ask what's my background - I will say I'm vietnamese. Find it strange people will get annoyed at people's answers when they aren't clear exactly what they want to know.

    36. Hakuna Matata

      Here in Georgia we just have the wonderful, headache-inducing smell of pollen

    37. Allison C

      I've been away for a while, so I just have say that I am loving this Tokyo Tales series! 🎉🎉15 out of 10! 🎉🎉

    38. iKatherinex1

      Hello Simon and Martina! I've been watching you guys since KMM days and I'm so glad you spoke about this because I too have faced these sort of things in college now. You see, I may not have moved to places before but in my country, Malaysia. We are mixed with different races and in Malaysia, the majority of the high schools basic language to learn is English and Malay, while I go to a private Chinese school where the basic language was to learn English, Chinese and Malay. Now, because of my country's different races put together, I have met a few foreign friends here in college asking me a question that I have never heard till now. My friend asked if I had two passports which confused me and I said 'No, I'm Malaysian. I was born here. I only have one passport.' But then he asked me, 'But you're chinese right?' And I agreed to it cause I am chinese. And he assumed I had two passports because he believes that I'm from China just cause I speak chinese and that I moved to Malaysia to have a home. The thing is, I understand why he was confused because first off it's his first time being in Malaysia so he was confused. Second is that our Prime Minister is Malay which is why he assumes that if I'm Malaysian my race is automatically Malay. It was quite difficult for me to prove my identity as a Malaysian Chinese because my nationality is Malaysian and that my race is Chinese. But even when I went to Taiwan for an exchange student program, the students there were also confused when I explained that I'm from Malaysia and they immediately assume I'm Malay, and when I explained I'm Malaysian Chinese they just nodded their heads with the most confused look ever. I wish people would have a bit of an open mind to things like this because it gets frustrating when they don't believe that you're not from China and you're a Malay just cause my country is called, Malaysia.

    39. NovaLaMason

      0:47 "Aaaaah~!" I LOST my shit! x'D

    40. Summer Ashley

      Wow. This episode really summarizes exactly what I feel like these days. I've spent the last five years, the beginning of my adult life, in Japan and I have a really hard time feeling like I identify with the United States now. It's really hard to explain to people but you both explained it so well! Thank you for this episode. I really feel a lot better knowing that I'm not the only one🙂

    41. Tasha Swinney

      As someone who's been abroad six years, I feel you. When I moved from China to Germany, people asked me where I was from and I'd say, "Well, I just came here from China" and that always felt somewhat pretentious but also it had been four years since I'd lived in Seattle and it would feel like a lie to say anything else. So I feel you. We pick up things from the cultures that have influenced us. I cook Korean and Chinese as much as I cook Western and visiting either of those countries would feel at least a little like going home to me.

    42. gaseki

      I have to say that there is a weird thing about my identity. For 9 years now I have lived in the UK with my wife and I still have really strong bond with my Polish culture, we watch the news to be up to date too. The problem I have is I don't feel at home either in the UK or in Poland.

    43. Ryan Kwan

      When are you from?

      1. Ryan Kwan

        @simonandmartinabonus Then I got love for ya'

      2. simonandmartinabonus

        The 80s ;)

    44. Juliette

      Yeah I agree. I came to America when I was a year old, born American so when people ask when I'm from, I say America but ethnically I'd say I'm from China. I'm technically from China but I'm lived in NY so so long that it's weird to say I'm from China because I'm not. I don't see a problem with people saying they're from where they live as long as they didn't just move there and don't know anything about that place yet.

    45. Kylee Alvarez

      I disagree with the mention of "when you're American, you're American". Most people perceive it as a melting pot, but that's not actually true when you live here. Most people will typically identify as African American, Mexican American, Asian American, Polish American, etc rather than just "American". I was born and raised in America but I still identify as Mexican American since I was raised in a predominately Mexican/Southwestern-centric household (even though I'm also a mix of European on my mom's side and I've never lived in Mexico). There are ABSOLUTELY those Americans who don't know their roots, but I would say a large amount-especially with the recent political climate-are wearing their heritage loud and proud more and more. I've always had a huge convoluted view of my identity and where I'm "from" so I really appreciate you talking about this from your perspective!

    46. Meghan

      Forgetting your old country would be like every time you have another child, you would abandon the previous child. We have the ability to love all of our children with equal, unconditional love.

    47. Gem Bonham-Horton

      We should ask people where they have been not where they are from

    48. Jake Muga

      I feel like having an identity based on limitations instead of growth can be very fragile. Adding to that, how you see yourself and how people see you can be very different things. This combination can be very tricky to deal with. But, I think that acknowledging our own complexities can make us feel more comfortable with other people’s complexities as well. I could only wish for more people to be kind enough to listen and understand 😂 I was born in the Philippines to Filipino parents and then went to the UK when I was young. Most Filipinos would notice the things that I do that are normal in the UK, and most people from the UK would notice the extremely Filipino things that I do. I love both cultures, and I don’t see why I have to choose between the two. I’ve also lived in Japan (ran into you guys quite a few times in Kichijoji actually, hi 👋🏼), Spain, and now I live in Canada. Whenever people ask me where I’m from, I just tell them where I’m currently living. But, if they’re interested in getting to know me better, I’d tell them about the different places that shaped me. And in return, I ask them about themselves. I often find that other people are never as simple as I tend to imagine them to be. Learning from different cultures and places is a wonderful thing. Seemingly contradictory things from other cultures can and do live in the very people who embody them. Have a fantastic and nasty day you two. 😜

    49. Haida W

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. You guys's perspective are inspiring. How your so open to new experiences and growing from them. Even when times are difficult.

    50. Athara26

      Spanish/Latin music suggestions: Mon Laferte, Gloria Trevi, Flor Amargo, Daniela Spalla, monsieur perine, Becky G, Ivy Queen, Ozuna, DJ Snake (feat, cardi B, selena gomez, ozuna) Taki Taki, Bad Bunny (song: Esta Rico) feat Will Smith and Marc Anthony, Carlos Vive, Maluma and many more ;) hope this list is helpful!

    51. RazzleJazzle05


    52. usedtobemyself

      This made me remember the time when Simon made a video about his sexuality because so many people in the comments were so under culture shock

    53. penguin52692

      You guys talking about identity (specifically where Simon said he was Polish first) is basically how a lot of the POC people in the US identify. I especially feel like this. Partially because, like Simon, I grew up mainly not speaking English (primarily used it in school). Partially because while growing up, society made it seem like unless you are the stereotypical girl that country music is singing about, you cannot claim to be an American girl. I don’t want to get hate for this because this literally is my experience and to invalidate it doesn’t benefit anyone, but this specific podcast really hit me hard

    54. Abby Wooper

      It is interesting, because when people ask where I'm from, they mean different things depending on their ethnicity. For reference, I'm American but a Korean Adoptee and identify as Korean American, usually. Americans (regardless of race) will ask "where are you from" as for asking race, but first or second generation immigrants will ask for race but also for "how long have you been here, where were you raised." This especially applies for Asians. I just think it is so interesting and I love this video! I usually always say "I'm Korean, but I'm from Kentucky and raised in Kentucky and I'm adopted." I ALWAYS add the adopted bit because people in America in my area (KY) ALWAYS try and relate to you based on your race, especially now that Koreas are so prevelant in popular culture.

    55. Jennifer

      I agree, "where are you from" is a hard question to answer but often a fun one that is driven by 1) where I am at the moment and 2) who I am talking to. I love the perspective of being a multinational, multiracial person but (and I just had this convo the other day with my wife who is also a well traveled multiracial 1st gen immigrant) I am really in awe of the idea of a "homeland". Like, what does an Indian or French person feel when they think about their country, especially when they've been away for a long time or, after having been away for a long time, decide to retire to their "homeland"? I have clearly romanticised the idea but I can't help wondering!

    56. carrotandfennel

      I love how you hold hands and look into one anothers eyes its so hearwarming. You guys do make my day. Moving a country was the best decision i ve ever made. For the first few years i thought of myself as Polish and had a bit of us and them mentality. Thanfully i eventually decided its time to open my mind up and try different things without judgement. I do get reverse culture shocks when i go bk to Poland every time. Fast forward 15 years i consider myself international first as do many of my friends. Half Polish half Glaswegian european second. Than overall Scottish. I used to crave Polish food only but man this has changed a lot. I most often eat indian italian korean and japanese foods. I ve gyoza and sushi withdrawals. Week without curry is a bad week. I eat chips with salt and vinegar and potato scone rolls with brown sauce which for the first 3 years or so i could not even bear to smell let alone eat. My partner is Scottish but lived in Guyana. He brought his love of mount gay rum and boulangie choka into my life. I also buy only fair trade after he told me about the things he witnessed there re working conditions. If you looked into the fridge youd ve no idea where we are from 😂

    57. usaginomame1217

      Yes! I remember learning about the melting pot vs mixed salad in Canadian school!

    58. DAYBROK3

      I am Canadian my fathers paternal line has been in North America before the Americans left the British empire (16 something before 1770s) moms paternal line came around the same time. Bother sides welcomed many immigrants into the family. So the only way we could be more Canadian is to be native. Though I now have a son in law who is of mixed native /white heritage.

    59. Lovely Lithium

      Among other things, this really made me think of the song Monody by TheFatRat Most of it is just music but when there is lyrics, the lyric "this is home where we are" really fits I think.

    60. Rikke Christine Hansen

      This is a really interesting conversation! This is a really sore and infected topic, at least for some europeans, because a lot of Americans (and I guess Canadians too) claim to be whatever-percentage European and therefore they are Italian, Swedish, Scottish etc. The problem I think is that they haven't grown up (or lived in) the country they feel the connection to, and therefore the natives feel like their own identity is stripped from them since "anyone" can claim their identity as their own. Does that make sense? I know most Americans/Canadians don't do this, but the ones that do are painfully visible and have a tendency to push their European identity on the native Europeans, and some even claim that they are more Italian/Swedish/Scottish than the people who grew up in those places. Some examples are "my family has always eaten x for Chistmas, so we're more German than you, a person who has never lived any other place". Identity and belonging somewhere is super important to everyone, and connecting with your ancestors can be very important to a lot of people, but doing it in this way is only destructive and makes both sides upset. I feel that your way of doing it is much more respectful, taking part in a culture without pushing other people out of it.

    61. David Griffiths

      With me I moved from Canada (Vancouver) to Hong Kong to work I was there for 5 years. When I traveled around Asia I always said I was from Hong Kong. If I was in Canada visiting I said I lived in Hong Kong and just visiting here. Now I have lived in the Philippines for the last 13 years when I am traveling in Asia or any where else even back to Canada I say I am from the Philippines but grew up here. Some people ask were where you born I say Scotland but grew up in Canada. Now I feel I have picked up more Asian mannerisms and even customs that when I visit Canada now it seems almost strange to my normal everyday life I feel like a tourist.

    62. Nina Mladenovic

      I completely feel this!! My parents are Serbian and Italian, I was born in New Zealand but spent my teen years living in Australia and now I’m studying in New Zealand again. When I lived in Australia, I was a New Zealander but now that I live in New Zealand, I’m an Australian (apparently due to my accent)??

    63. Azura500

      Absolutely love listening to y’all and enjoy your view from japan and Korea as well as Canada. I do want to say as an Italian American and growing up with friends who were Indian American or Asian American ect. I never felt that their cultures or my own were lost and that we could only be “American”. I still share my culture with my children through food and music and language. I hope the rest of the world truly doesn’t see us that way. I have never experienced or seen other who experienced this in America.

    64. hikkipedia

      Martina listen to Ozuna! He's so sexy!

    65. jbaass

      I love how this video and the "Day in the life of..." crossover. Until I say that video, I didn't know this video had been released despite being subscribed and "Bell" Icon'd.

    66. Viola Chu

      I think this video was super interesting. Personally, I've always found the question of where I'm from difficult to answer. I was born in Canada, moved to Hong Kong when I was 8 months and then moved to England when I was 9. Not only that, but I've also moved about since coming to England. I find myself always asking them what they mean by that question and sometimes I just like to mess with people and tell them I'm fron Canada 😂 Although, generally I know people are trying to figure out what Asian I am 🙄

    67. Carrie Waters

      I think this is what I love about living in a Australia, we have such a melting pot of ethnicity that you get to experience different cultures on a daily basis and it is so accessible, so much so that to me being Australian in an amalgamation of all I get to experience of these cultures especially through food and ethnic traditions. I find it all fascinating and I feel extremely lucky.

    68. Gilda

      Oh wow I can't believe it's been years since y'all big move to Japan. I still remember the video y'all posted telling us you were moving ❤️

    69. Oli

      Meanwhile in the UK right now... been here for more of my life than in Poland (where I was born) yet I get attacked for saying that I'm from (enter town I live in). NO how dare I say that when I'm only from Poland. This is where my home is, I think and dream in Polish and English, I'm fluent in both, but the UK is where I'm from, however, I originate from Poland.

      1. carrotandfennel

        Id ask them who the prime minister was 20 years ago or any sort of historical question. Than watch them get embarassed. Lots of worms crawled out of the woodwork those past two yrs. I find making such folk a laughing stock works best.

    70. Carrie Rider

      You don’t get much bread and yet Simon has that amazing toaster? Lol

    71. Laura Springall

      Hi Simon and Martina! I just wanted to say thank you for all the positivity you guys give to the world. I’m currently in a rough spot in life. I was supposed to be spending a year travelling Europe right now, a trip that I’ve spent the last 6 years saving for by working shitty customer service jobs. After only 3 months my trip was cut short, and I was devastated. Instead of hiking through the Scottish highlands, I’m now living in a tiny basement apartment in the ugliest part of Ontario, can’t find a job, and facing serious financial struggles. Today I had to take a job as a sign holder, standing on the side of the road advertising some store’s sale. I’m 22, just finished 4 years of university, and this is the only employment I can find. My anxiety and depression have reached absolute rock bottom. I was standing there today in -10° weather, feeling like a complete failure, and fighting off tears. Then I remembered that you guys have a podcast, which I’ve never listened to because I never really got into podcasts, but I decided to spend the last 5 hours of my freezing cold shift listening to yours. I wanted to thank you because listening to your stories is the only thing that kept me going all day without bursting into tears. Whenever I need to build a ladder, you guys are always my first rung. Thank you so much for all that you do for your community, I hope you realize how truly special you both are and how much difference you’ve made in peoples lives all over the world

    72. The Honeycomb

      I generally really enjoy your content and this started off as a great conversation. About 4:52, however, Simon talks about the growing practice of identifying oneself (for example, I identify as a pansexual) using the phrases “hippie dippie” and “I identify as an attack copter”. Wow, Simon. That was like a slap in the face and really unexpected from you. Are you aware that the phrase “I identify as an attack helicopter” originated and is used as an attack on and complete dismissal of those whose identities are too outside their experience for the speaker’s comfort? I don’t think you meant to be hurtful, but please consider not using the “attack copter” phrase in future. Thanks for listening.

    73. ElTrio1 [WhenINoKnothing]

      When people ask me where I'm from, I always wind up saying "Well I live in [state 4], but I was born in [state 1], lived half my life in [state 2] and graduated high school in [state 3]." It's never been an easy answer for me.

    74. Akira Blur

      Hey - I live in Ogikubo lol

    75. L D

      Living in japan, but canadian. Isn’t that simple enough? People over complicate things too much with identity. It’s become this capitalistic navel gazing where personality is mistaken or sold as identities. Like youre no longer someone who tries to be green, youre an eco warrior, because simply doing something doesnt sell as much, you gotta be told you are something so that image can be sold to you. Our brains are plastic, constantly molding around our experiences. If you are surrounded by a certain culture for a long time your brain starts to wire itself to the sounds and flavors and customs of that place. People want to create trendy little words to sum up their entire existence, its impossible. Everyone is more than a word or two, it doesnt make anyone special to string a bunch of made up confusing words together when talking about themselves. It’s far easier, much more human, and way more understandable to simply take a second to tell someone who you are. Like ‘we’re Canadians who have lived in Asia for 11 years’ really is a small but fairly descriptive explanation that shows how your country of origin doesnt have as much of a hold on who you currently are as people compared to other Canadians. It says canadian foundationally but global citizens more broadly. I think too much importance is recently put on identity overall. The ugly side of it comes with an almost constant need for validation. Just be who you are and do what you do. Also, not talking about you guys here specifically other than the parts where i mention japan and canada.

    76. Tayo G

      Oh yes I feel this very much. I am a military brat and although I didn't move around as a lot of military brats do I was born in England at a joint England/US base but then spent the rest of my life in Florida. My father however, is from South Carolina, which is very different from Florida and some of who he is has rubbed of on me.

    77. Julie Foster

      My family moved often as I was growing up (non-military) and I have continued in my adult life. Very few family comfort foods/etc. but I am always an early adopter of foreign foods/experiences ... and why I am so happy to hopefully be moving to Kichijoji in June to study Japanese language in Shinjuku. You two have been a motivational source for me ... just before my mother passed away last year ... she said to come back ... so I have/am/will ... next month in Kichijoji awaiting sakura 🌸💜☯️✨

    78. Brock

      Canadian here. Definitely heard in school that we are the mosaic and the US is a melting pot. Serums and BB creams are pretty popular now at least in the masculine-identifying LGBT community.

    79. Kaiya Scarborough

      Okay so you guys talking about minute rice reminds me of the fact that my friends growing up were always so confused when they came over because we made "actual" rice at my house. And in fact the first time I ever had minute or instant rice was recently as a broke-ass college student at my friends house. COMPLETELY different.

    80. Caerigna

      In America we tend to hyphenate as the genetic-born/living. The born or currently living in gets confused in the same way you were talking about at the beginning. Some solve it with multiple hyphenation, lol. It can end up being geneteic-born-living in. So Simon would be Polish-Canadian-Japanese. I'd be German-American and Polish-American and Irish-American, or German/Irish/Polish-American. Since I have multiple strong genetic and cultural leftovers I can just say mixed American, or (lol) put a bunch of Canadian stickers on everything and avoid American identification at all when traveling.

    81. fartzinwind

      You guys are a few deep on these Tokyo tales, and I'm really liking it so far. I love the simple but open format, with in-depth talks on the topics. It's great to listen to while at work.

      1. simonandmartinabonus

        I'm glad you like it. Thank you!

    82. Alyssa Butler

      When this video came out I was driving home cross country with my husband after spending some time in Sydney/Cape Breton, NS. I had been thinking to myself "I wonder where in Canada Simon and Martina are from?" and also thinking to myself that I'm pretty sure it's been mentioned in a few older videos. My husband and I wound up having a similar conversation (mosaic vs melting pot) driving through Canada to get to Cape Breton and through the States to get home to Michigan. I have always thought of myself in terms of my genetic background and referencing that when I am speaking with other Americans, but whenever we travel abroad I do identify myself as American. One of the things I was thinking about while watching this video is how lucky I am to have the internet to be able to explore other cultures without having traveled to those places (yet), and to be able to explore the history of places that I am visiting or have visited. Thank you so much for this video and for sharing your thoughts with us! PS: That was one heck of a care package and so sweet and thoughtful of Miki!

    83. Selena

      *Martina talking* Simon: Yeah. Right. Hmhm. Right. Right. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Right. Hmhm. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Love the supportive husband haha

    84. cardcaptorcarla

      I love this podcast! I actually listened to it through the podcast app and had to come over to the video to comment. I myself was born in the Philippines, moved to America at 2, and raised in Los Angeles (with its huge Chicano culture). Growing up there was a great debate about my identity. People in America called me Filipino, but people form the Philippines didn’t identify me as “true” Filipino but American. I didn’t speak Tagalog, I forgot it as I was learning English, and so I was judged by that fact even though I was born there. I wasn’t truly American because I wasn’t born in the US. And even to this day (I’m 26 now) a lot of others, mostly the older ones, would question which I identify with. And then of course I was raised in Los Angeles and I was raised by a lot of others who were Latino and ate different foods growing up that didn’t classify as either Filipino or American. I identify myself as Filipino-American because I respect the country I originated from and I respect the country I live in now. I’m not either or, but an and. I agree that I feel like it’s also situational! Depending on where I am I’ll say my ethnicity is Filipino but I’m from America! I feel like it depends on where you call home! I’m sure if I lived abroad I would identify myself still as Filipino-American but I would tell people I’m from -insert current country I live in-. I loveee your podcasts! Please continue to make more. It makes my commute so much better and I love it when you guys give out thoughtful and insightful questions. It makes me consider so many things!

    85. Karolina M

      I was born and raised in Poland (HI SIMON! lol) so I say I'm originally from Poland but live in the US. If I want to go further, I'll say I grew up in Chicago but currently live in California. I don't really say I'm FROM anywhere.

    86. JCXP123

      Omg that melting pot and quilted blanket reference!! I remember hearing it for the first time in Grade 9 Canadian Geography :D I really resonate with this episode soo much!I was born in Singapore, but I have lived in Toronto for almost 10 years (it'll be 10 years in June)! During the first few years of living in Canada, my first response was always, " I'm a Singaporean". But as time passed, I stopped. I don't say I am Canadian but if anyone asks me where I'm from, my immediate answer is "I'm from Canada". For awhile, I felt a bit strange because it felt like I was turning my back on Singapore, but I'm not. I feel proud that I was born there and even though there are things I didn't like (and still don't like) about Singapore, it is a place that I care for greatly. Same with Canada. How you guys feel when you return to Japan is exactly how i feel. It's really a feeling of "I'm home!" And I don't even know when I started feeling that way about Canada. It really only dawned on me last year when the van attack happened and I was outraged that someone would do this to my home. But this really messed up my "identity" in the sense that I really can't explain who I am anymore haha 🤣 A simple explanation though, I'm me! :D

    87. CoreChick

      I'd actually like to disagree with the America is a melting pot thing. It might happen in certain areas or more so in certain time periods, but from what I and many of my friends have experienced that's not the case. If I asked my friends what they are, they'd tell me their ethnicity. They live and breathe their culture AND American culture. If they/their parents/their grandparents are immigrants they go by their home country, whereas (sometimes) if they've been in America for generations and they married in and out of different backgrounds they might just say they're American. I live in an area where there are many more immigrants than Americans who have been here for generations (the west), but even in the east if someone is 5th generation they usually want to explore their heritage more than blend in nowadays. And that's mostly because times have changed, the mentality is to be more accepting of who you are and where you're from, and it's still growing across many platforms and industries.

    88. Tina H

      I apologize in advance as I have Vision issues and have to use voice to text so if something doesn't sound right or if a word is wrong it's because of that. This podcast / video was actually I think one of the best ones you've done because it helped to explain to people that they shouldn't get mad over silly things such as stating where you're from. You could never be originally from a place unless you actually are but to be able to live there and to take on some of the customs and pieces of a place just adds more to you. Like you'd stated that Canada is a tossed salad bits and pieces of everybody gets mixed in to make something very yummy.

    89. whichwitch

      Identity is not black and white, just like everything else in the world. You have your ethnic identity, your cultural identity, your sexual identity, your personality and values and so much more. You, your values, your ideas, your friends.. it all changes and morphs. Boiling down your identity down to a single word, even if it's just your ethnic identity, would still be extremely difficult because almost no one is 100% anything.

    90. coco me

      Hay guy I’ve been watching your videos for so long but never left a comment but I just recently started listening to the podcast and you guys are so inspirational I think you guys are one of the biggest influences on why I went to culinary school and I just want to say thank you keep making videos there great

      1. simonandmartinabonus

        Congratulations on going to culinary school! I always wanted to go so that I could learn how to be a better chef at home. I wouldn't want to work in a restaurant. It seems a bit too high intensity for me!

    91. gaiadove

      Rice is life... but let’s get real though... bread in Japan is pretty good too!

    92. AllieS

      I do feel like when many people move to America they become American but there are divisions in America primarily North/South, East/West, and Rural/Urban which all have very different cultures. As an American whose never left the country I identify first as a Texan, than as a Southern and then American but if you asked my neighbors they would have a different answer. I feel for a lot of Americans you identify more with your state or region than with the county as a whole. Though this is not true for everyone.

    93. fartzinwind

      Ahhhaaaahaaa. "If this doesn't work were going to cut" bam commercial interruption.

    94. talia maloof

      There is so much more genres to Latin music then "pop". Pop typically refers to just popular music. But if you want suggestions Celia Cruz is good for salsa and bad bunny is really good for raggaeton. Elvis crespo is popular among moms.

    95. melodramatic7904

      Wow! I actually had a similar experience this past Christmas. I am not sure if you recognize my username by now so I will briefly explain who I am. I am a native NYer who moved overseas in 2006 (Korean and Japan). I briefly returned to the states from 2010 to 2013 with plans to live there forever, but then I met someone who was working in the states temporarily and we fell in love and got married. We then moved to Europe together in 2014 and I have been here ever since. So my husband, my two kids, and I all flew back to NY to spend Christmas and New Years with my family. The day after we arrived, my mom took us all grocery shopping because we were staying for 3 weeks and she had no idea what we liked to eat. I experienced such culture shock when I saw how BIG the supermarket was. Even the packages were HUGE. I was like "who is going to eat all that bacon?" "why are the cereal boxes so massive!" I had experiences like that the entire time. I didn't leave the US until I was 25 but I swear I feel just as much like a foreigner as my husband at this point.

    96. Jackie Joe

      Would love to know how else living in Korea and Japan have changed you as people beyond just your food preferences.

      1. simonandmartinabonus

        We have a lot of ideas on this that we want to discuss one day!

    97. ncuXoguHo4ka

      Can relate lol When I was a child we moved from russia to germany and growing up I always said I'm russian (since I was born there). But some time later when we visited our family in russia I could barely talk to them since I usually only spoke german. Since then I felt like I'm too russian to fit in with the germans and too german to fit in with the russians ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I had to come to terms with not being either. I am an individual and being german/russian is only a part of me. Also I love this podcast :D It's the only one I listen to haha

    98. isstinna

      Thank you so much for talking about this! It was very interesting and also important. As a bi (pan?) sexual non binary person I was always questioning all of my identities. And I think cultural identity can be so fluid! Recently I talked about it with my friends and one of them called me "digital immigrant". And this term is so correct! World cultures have always been my main love and passion and travelling has always been my biggest dream. Unfortunatelly I had no money to travel at all (but now I slowly start doing it - I just got my schengen visa!). So I experience countries and cultures via web. And now I almost never visit Russian part of the internet (this is where I am from), people there are very rude and I can't identify at all with almost everything that is happening there. I watch losts of foreign youtubers, cartoons, movies. I browse english-speaking websites. I even have chosen my youtube location to be KGup New Zeland, because I like the trends there. I respect some parts of Russian culture of course and don't want to deny my origins but I don't feel Russian although it is litteraly the only country I lived in and both my parents are Russian. Sounds strange I know.

    99. Rev Gina Pond

      I'm totally with you about really exploring the local food when you move to a new place. My wife and I moved to Zurich, Switzerland last year, and it really boggles my mind that a lot of expats spend a lot of money and time trying to get stuff from America. Not just food things, but even toilet paper and cleaning products! I feel like a weirdo with some expats because I didn't come here expecting to just eat American style food. I mean, yeah, sure, do we go to McD's on occasion or Starbucks? Yeah, because sometimes I'm in a mood where that's just easier, but for day to day cooking I just work with the food that's here. I've also learned to make some stuff from scratch because it's not that hard to get the raw ingredients. (Although, the cheese here.....OMG the cheese....and chocolate...)

      1. Rev Gina Pond

        Oh, and I forgot about raclette and fondue....oh YES!

    100. dellajoe

      The moment when Simon said 'if this doesn't work we're gonna cut...' an ad played immediately after 😂 what a timing!! Haha